All of us face everyday decisions. Not everyday, though, do all of us face tough decisions. I don’t want to downplay the decisions we face everyday, but it’s the tough decisions that are seemingly life-defining. Oftentimes, they are life-altering.
Some examples from my own life might be:
- where to go to college
- when to get married
- which graduate school to attend
- buy a house or rent
- the right time to have our first baby
- how far to live away from family
- who or if one of us will stay home with our kids
- which school our daughters should attend
- when to accept a promotion or when to remain
Some of these tough decisions, we made with relative ease. Then, there were others that were covered in tears, indecision, fear, and complete confusion. With each decision, we hoped for a clear-cut answer to shine through. We longed for one choice to be so obvious we couldn’t miss it.
Our wish came true, sometimes. Like when we were too young to believe we were too young to be married. Or when we didn’t make enough money to afford the house payment on the house we wanted to buy. Or when we discovered a graduate school in Florida as opposed to Kansas.
Other times, everything seemed unclear. It may have been both choices seemed equally good. Or maybe both choices seemed equally bad. Or one choice had a positive we really wanted, while the other choice had a different positive we deeply desired. Or one choice was safe but limiting, while the other was liberating but risky.
If I’ve learned one thing about making a tough decision, it is motivated by Proverbs 16:3, “Commit your work to the LORD, and your plans will be established.”
Whatever tough decision you make, choose to serve God. Whether you attend a state university or Christian college, choose to serve God there. Whether you live in a house in a neighborhood or an apartment in a complex, choose to serve God there. Whether you get married young or wait till a later age, choose to serve God in all your relationships. Whether you take a promotion or work a lower-level position, choose to serve God. God can use you wherever you live, whatever you do, however old you are, and with any amount of resources you possess.
Most of the time, one choice isn’t more right than the other. What’s right is what you do with the choice you make. Most choices are right by the way we serve God after making it. “Commit your work to the LORD…”
What tough decisions are you facing?