No wife expects to be widowed before their children make it to Middle School. Sadly, this reality befell a young mother in our church.
One month her husband is coaching their son’s little league baseball team. The next month they hear those dreadful words, “I’m sorry, you have cancer.” As a father and husband myself, it pains me to even type the phrase.
In May, her husband breathed his last. Three months before their son enters Middle School for the first time. Decades before a wife and son can even think of saying goodbye.
What can we do as a church to care for this young widow?
The first time I asked, she said, “So many people have done so much for me already, I can’t think of anything right now.” My reply to her was, “Ok, but if there’s anything we can do to help, please let us know.”
A few days later, a receive an email from her saying, “I guess there is something you may be able to help. My husband always changed the oil in my car, and I’m sure it needs it again. Also, something doesn’t feel right in the front end of my car. The breaks are making a weird noise and it feels like the car is pulling itself to one side.”
This is a moment I need my dad. He can fix any car. I can change the oil, but I can’t even begin to pretend I know how to fix a problem one can barely describe. Problem is, my dad lives in Ohio.
Somebody in our church can and will help, I’m sure. So, I start making phone calls and asking. I explain the situation to another pastor at our church, and he started making calls. He spoke to someone else in our church, then he started making calls.
A few days later I opened an email that began with the phrase, “Awesome news! We found someone to fix her car. Free of charge.”
The car is fixed. The problem was due to a former mechanic failing to replace the bearings properly. Wheel bearings allow the wheels to turn freely. No wonder it felt like the car had something wrong in the front end.
We learn in the Bible that “Father of orphans and protector of widows is God in God’s holy habitation.” Psalm 68:5
Grateful to serve in a church with people who seek ways to protect widows in our community.
What can you do to be a protector of widows?